I have recently started distinguishing what I see as a fundamental thing when it comes to achieving a goal in life i.e. 'the place where you come from'.
What I mean by this is the backdrop to one's actions and intentions. Just like the stage and setting of a theatre production brings forth the type of play that stage is supposed to host, the background to our life ('the place where we come from') can determine what and how we achieve our goals, independently of the circumstances or challenges we face to get there.
This requires us to let go of our tendency to tell ourselves 'I cannot do that', or 'that cannot be done'. If we look long and hard into what makes us feel that way we might well conclude the most of the reasons we have come up with to corroborate some unmmovable axiom are full of crap.
If we create a different backdrop - a backdrop of 'can', we find that the things that happen within that space are geared up to bring forth that very thing that we feel we can do. The key thing is that this backdrop creates freedom. It frees us from micromanaging or worrying about the minutia of how those things need to happen, for those things can now happen in a number of ways, but each of these way still leads to the overaching result that we long for.
So, by looking at one area in our lives where we have attached a lot of'can'ts' and simply turning them into 'cans' we will find that our attitude (and hence actions) towards that goal will change. This power is merely the fuel to get there, and actions are still needed to get there, however with no fuel we might not get very far at all.
